Orgasms are absolutely fantastic, there's no doubt about that. But, there might be times where you or your partner cannot or choose not to reach climax.
Sex should be pleasurable and fun, whether you're orgasming or not. It's those sexy, fun feelings that bring us to orgasm, and we wouldn't be orgasming without them.
It's just like that age-old saying – the journey is better than (or even the reason for) the destination. You wouldn't do a hike to a lookout point and ignore the wildlife, plants and waterfall along the way, would you?
Also, I find that removing the sense of having a 'goal' (i.e. orgasming) when engaging in partnered or solo sex can make things much more enjoyable.
That way you'll notice all of the other sexy things happening along the way that you may have overlooked because you were so focused on achieving an orgasm.
Let's explore some other sexy and fun things that don't include orgasms.
Whether you want to discover new ways to connect with each other, or you want to spice up your erotic routine with something a bit different, sex toys can be an exciting way to increase desire and sexual satisfaction between you and your partner.
If you are trying to mix things up, increase your pleasure in the bedroom, or enhance your sexual excitement – introducing a toy (or toys!) could be the answer you've been searching for.
Sure, when you guys first met you stayed up all night; Bumpin' and grindin', sharing your raunchiest desires into the early hours (all while Careless Whisper played softly in the background).
But, when your relationship is old enough to legally buy cigarettes, kids, mortgages and television often take precedent over chatting about your innermost sexual desires.
Long term sexual relationships can often suffer from getting a little formulaic. While you may know each other inside out and have a healthy sex life, if you're holding back on sharing your true sexual desires you could be majorly missing out.
Whether you've just plucked up the courage to share, have lost a little enthusiasm for your usual bedtime romp, or have recently discovered a new sexual curiosity, it's time to start talking about your desires. In this blog we provide some handy tips to get that sex talk flowing.
Did you know that a lack of confidence in our own bodies is one of the biggest inhibitors to living a sexually happy life? Well, this week on the Sexual Happiness Podcast, we decided to do our best to remedy that.
With the help of body confidence advocate, model, and influencer Jess Megan, Sammi and guest host Kate talk about why we might not always feel our sexiest, and what all of us can do to remedy that.
And of course we cover our usual segments "You can never know enough about sex" and "Question of the week" where we share what we've learned about sex this week, and answer your sex questions.
You can get sex advice from loads of places, including Lovehoney (that's us!), doctors, sexperts and people like you, who may have experience with the very situation you're wondering about. In cases like that, an easy way to connect with other people is by joining a forum to ask the question. Our very own Lovehoney forum may be your first stop, but if you're looking for even more information, enter Reddit.
Reddit is the largest, most popular forum on the internet. Gone are the days when forums were all specific, separate websites: Reddit is a conglomerate of communities (called 'subreddits') where discussions are happening all the time.
Subreddits can be as general as r/Advice and r/NoStupidQuestions, where you can ask any question that tickles your fancy, or as specific as r/WhatsThisBug, where users post pictures of unidentified insects and the community entomologists will label your critter.
Since we're the sexual happiness people, we've explored Reddit to find the best subreddits where you can get sex advice.