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The 101 on Squirting and Female Ejaculation
If the mysterious air of female ejaculation has piqued your interest and you want to know the dirty details of why and how, let our expert guide lead you through your orgasmic, and potentially very wet, journey.
Female ejaculation, or squirting, is a phenomenon that’s been talked about for centuries. In fact, the Kamasutra (written in 200-400 AD) refers to ‘female semen’ that ‘falls continually’.
Despite hundreds and hundreds of years of documentation of the benefits of female ejaculation, even in the 21st century, we still know relatively little about it.
Only in recent years has squirting become a culturally popular addition to our sexual repertoire. And quite rightly we think. After all, who doesn’t want to experience intense, gushing orgasms?
What is female ejaculation?
While some question “is female ejaculation real?”, the Lovehoney experts say you betcha. During penetrative sex or stimulation of the vulva, many women can experience an involuntary release of fluid which is known as female ejaculation or squirting.
Before squirting became a popular topic of conversation, female ejaculation fluid may have been dismissed as urination during sex, leaving naturally talented squirters stressed and embarrassed.
Nowadays, we are much wiser - we know that the liquid is closer to what’s secreted by the male prostate when stimulated. This has led to many referring to the Skene’s glands (the glands surrounding the G-spot which are responsible for squirting fluid) as the ‘female prostate’.
Most importantly, squirting is now a celebrated sexual act! The gushing ejaculation is now seen as an incredible physical expression of arousal, and women are clamouring to know how to experience this exotic sensation.
Why do women squirt?
For a minority of women, squirting can be a common and natural reaction when they are sexually stimulated in a certain way. Minority being the keyword in that sentence - for many women, it takes some specific experimentation to achieve female ejaculation.
While many women have the physical capacity to squirt, it’s often brought on by specific stimulation and intent. Remember, everyone’s bodies are totally unique, so there’s no such thing as an exact template for squirting results. The focus should always be on achieving a mind-blowing orgasm rather than the volume of liquid that comes with it. With this frame of mind, you can get more out of learning the art of squirting.
Learn how to squirt (or enjoy amazing orgasms) in 5 simple steps
1. Chill out and have a chat
If you’re planning on squirting with the handy help of a partner, it’s etiquette to bring it up with them before surprising them with your new skillset. Although your bodily secretions are really your own business, so it’s up to you.
Also note that for many women, once they’ve mastered this skill, it may become a common involuntary occurrence during sex. Thanks to a litany of recent porn videos featuring the elusive female squirt, the good news is that many people have completely normalised the idea and are keen to reenact the fantasy with a partner.
The most important thing to do when preparing for wet and wild adventures is to relax. Ensure that you stay comfortable and sensual as you prepare for your exploration. Light a candle, dim the lights, get into something sexy - do whatever makes you feel in the mood and comfortable.
You can give squirting a whirl either solo or with a partner, so pick your preference and let’s get started!
2. It’s playtime
Clear your calendar - you’re in for a whole lot of ‘me time’. Don’t put yourself under any pressure to achieve certain results, just lay back and enjoy the different sensations and (hopefully) a toe-curling orgasm.
Taking your time with masturbation or foreplay is absolutely key in your squirting quest. Ask your partner to take their time and pay special attention to all of your erogenous zones, warming you up entirely. Have them work their way all over your body, kissing and touching your breasts, nipples, stomach and thighs before making their way to your honey pot.
Might be wondering how to make yourself squirt if you’re flying solo? Take your sweet time caressing all of your hot spots, treating yourself to a whole lot of self lovin’ before diving down under.
Once you’re all hot and heavy and headed downstairs, be sure to narrow your attention on the clitoris and coax an orgasm using fingers, a tongue or a clitoral vibrator to get you super wet and in the mood for the next step.
3. Get that WAP
You’ve got to get things wet, wet, wet down there! Load up on lube and a whole lot of teasing to put you in the mood for squirting success. Intimate stimulation will have your natural lubrication flowing, but a helping hand from your favourite lubricant will definitely help you to get to where you want to go.
4. To orgasm and beyond
Now that you’re deeply aroused, you can start working on your G-spot. You can find this magic spot - with your fingers or with a G-spot toy covered in a water-based lube - located 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall.
Firm metal or glass dildos and G-spot vibrators are incredible at targeting your G-spot because they are curved and offer more pressure (the Skene’s glands love a firm caress). Thrusting vibrators are also a stellar choice to mimic the stroking motion needed to stimulate the G-spot while lyou free to concentrate on hitting the right angle.
When you get close to a squirting orgasm, you might feel the need to pee - that means you’re almost there! Don’t worry, the sensation stems from intense G-spot stimulation and is totally normal. Push through this feeling as it should soon be replaced with a delicious, deep sensation that builds you towards orgasm.
As you feel yourself super close to climax, push out your PC muscles (your pelvic floor/pubococcygeal muscles), which will relax the Skene’s glands and have you gushing. Happy squirting!
5. How to squirt during sex: Best sex positions
If you’re wanting to squirt during penetrative sex with a partner, although it’s a slightly more advanced technique than with hands or toys, it can be done. These sex positions are your best chance at achieving a gushing orgasm:
Doggy style
A classic sex position that hits the angle needed for female ejaculation. Hot tip: try placing a pillow underneath your stomach and positioning yourself slightly forwards while leaning down.
Riding on top
Ideal for G-spot pressure. The way that a penis, strap-on or dildo is positioned inside you while you’re riding on top is perfect for squirting. Try leaning back slightly so that your front vaginal wall is stimulated.
On A Mission
With some small alterations, this old classic can get you there. Prop your bottom up with a couple of pillows and lie with your feet flat on the bed, knees bent. This is the best angle for G-spot contact right from the moment that they enter you. To experience an even more intense sensation, pull up your legs higher and spread them wide.
Best sex toys for squirting success
Best for waves of pleasure
Lay back and let ripples of pleasure wash over you with this G-spot vibrator. Heavenly curvacious and crafted from silky soft silicone, treat your G-spot to a choice of 8 blissful vibration patterns with 12 different intensity levels.
What customers say: "We have had G-spot toys in the past but they have had limited impact on the OH. Not this one, ‘OMG the vibrations are so strong!’ she screamed as she hit the big O in very quick time."
Best for intimate internal massages
One of the best sex toys for squirting and crafted from smooth stainless steel, this luxurious dildo brought to you by Lovehoney is designed to fulfil your fantasies. 8 inches of the bulbous and curved shaft is crafted to deliver intimate internal G-spot massages.
What customers say: "This thing is like magic! It is great for finding your G-spot, and when paired with clitoral stimulation this thing is bound to give me explosive orgasms every time."
Best for blended bathroom O's
Get greedy for pleasure with the Fifty Shades G-Spot Rabbit. Made from super-soft silicone, revel in 36 possible variation modes and combinations. For the ultimate wet and wild experience, take this waterproof vibe into the shower for squirting experimentation and blended orgasms.
What customers say: "There are multiple speeds for both parts and I can’t even put it on full speed because I will orgasm too fast! Definitely gives an amazing orgasm that’s very intense!"
Best for temperature play
Bring this sensual glass dildo into your bedroom for G-spot satisfaction. Achieve firm stimulation that only a curved glass dildo can provide. Or, mix things up with some temperature play by simply submerging it in warm water or cooling in the fridge for 10 minutes before play.
What customers say: "A friend of mine had suggested trying a glass toy, so I decided to go with this one, and wow! I can't even begin to explain how much I love this! It's great for temperature play and just having a great time."
Best for pinpoint pleasure
The Power Play Vibrator is the only tall, dark and handsome toy you need to reach squirt-level orgasmic bliss. This mighty vibe cranes its neck into a gentle angle to caress your G-spot with precise stimulation. To experience different vibration speeds, simply twist the base and go forth!
What customers say: "I tried it out alone for the first time and it just hit all the right places! I like a lot of cliteral stimulation, and this was powerful enough to get me close in moments - just in time to slide in and hit the G-spot and send me over the edge!"
Best for silky-smooth glide
Versatile and bringing luxurious glide is our best selling water-based lube. Just a small squeeze of the body-safe, water-based formula is all that you need to enjoy long-lasting pleasure during solo or partnered sexy time.
What customers say: "This lube hit all the right boxes. The lube lasted a decent amount of time, was soft/silky, and frankly just felt amazing."
7 things you probably didn't know about squirting
1. Squirting fluid isn’t pee
Men ejaculate and urinate from their urethras, and the same goes for the ladies. Two different fluids are capable of emerging from the same place for both women and men.
2. What is female ejaculate?
Interestingly, around 100 scientific studies conducted on the composition of female ejaculate have determined that it’s made up of 90% prostatic fluid, 10% glucose and a small amount of urea. Male ejaculate also contains 0.5% of urea.
3. What stops women from squirting?
A lot of the time, the fear of urinating can hold women back from squirting. As the sensation of female ejaculation can feel similar to urinating, it can have a lot of women worried about what might occur during sex. Our top tip to prevent your squirting pleasure from being inhibited by fear is to pee before you get down and dirty so that you can purely focus on your orgasm.
4. Practice makes perfect
Just like anything worth doing, the more you practice, the better you’ll become at doing it. Get in some enticing practice with your favourite G-spot dildos and vibrators, strengthen your Kegel muscles with toner balls, and request that a willing partner embarks on your squirting adventure with you - we’re sure that they won’t object to this invitation.
5. How many times can you squirt one after the other?
This will depend on a few different factors such as how strong your Kegel muscles are, if you’ve ever squirted before, and how hydrated you are (female ejaculate contains large amounts of water) and how experienced you and your partner are with squirting.
6. Can you have sex right after squirting?
Absolutely - it's an incredible moment to have penetrative sex as you’ll be fully aroused and even more likely to orgasm again.
7. What is squirt stacking?
This process is similar to edging or peaking, which involves bringing yourself to the brink of arousal several times before reducing stimulation to not release an orgasm. By repeating this multiple times in one session, when you allow yourself to go over the edge you’ll likely experience an extremely powerful squirting finale.
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