Yes, we reckon, treat them to a full-on masturbation show. Use sex toys if you want them to feature in your couple's play. Or use your hands. Talk your kinky companion through what you're doing, where you like to be touched and how. Come on, if you can give a PowerPoint demo at work, you can teach Polish the Pearl or Crank the Shaft 101 at home to your boo.

Your better half may get frisky as you describe and show the sensations you're experiencing. Don’t give in too soon - half the fun of bedroom bondage is playing with delay - otherwise called 'Tease and Denial'.

You know they want it, and they know they want it, but they can't have it. Not until they've learned what you need to convey. Enjoy the tease.

Bedroom bondage isn’t entirely restrictive - it can allow some movement. Leg spreaders and overhead arm restraints are wonderful BDSM restraints. Leg spreaders (mostly used on women and men who are into anal play) allow easy access to the downstairs’ portals between the legs. Plus it's a handy bar to hang onto or tie into position during more difficult positions.

Restraining your sub's arms above their head (a cinch if you have a four-poster bed) allows you full manoeuvrability of their torso, legs and crotch. Your beau is now a poseable lover.

Shift them into positions that really light your fire. By using BDSM restraints, they can’t escape your intent before you get your rocks off. The advantage of partial bondage is that your partner can move with you during rumpy pumpy, rather than being totally bound up and passive.

Let’s say you’re dressed up in BDSM lingerie. Take advantage of your restrained other and demonstrate what you want in oral sex. Put them in position on their knees and have them perform oral on you.

Now’s your chance to make great use of the BDSM restraints they’re in. You can teach them how to move, where to move and what feels good when they do it right. If they show enough effort, you might decide to reward them later.

Bedroom bondage can begin with pleasurable sensations and then turn to a brief interlude of pain. Follow this with more pleasurable sensations.

This old switcheroo makes the body react to the cycle of pleasure/pain by releasing adrenaline and dopamine into the blood stream. Enjoy that all-natural high.

It tells your nerve endings to become more alert - that makes the return to pleasure much more satisfying and the body reacts with yet more sensitivity.

You don't need any sex toys to play with the pleasure and pain scenario. But they can be fun.

Spanking is worth a shot. Even with a slow massage, chuck in the odd light spank to your bonk buddy’s shoulders, bum and the backs of thighs and calves.

If your partner enjoys a spank, invest in a feather tickler, flogger or spanking paddle. These toys will deliver a range of soft and hard sensations, so remember to build up slowly and learn your lover's limits to please them.

Temperature play is another advanced bedroom bondage technique. You can use hot and cold objects and materials to wake up your lover's sensations.

Try alternating ice and melted massage candles. Or glass dildos and toys that can be both heated and cooled.

Hot tip: Make sure you try out hot and cold sensations on a part of the body that isn't too sensitive first. An arm or leg is a safer testing ground than a Mappa Tassie.

A trickle of hot wax or warmed massage oil alternated with the chilling tingle of ice will have your lover's body curving like a lioness on heat.