How to Buy Sexy Underwear for Men

It’s not just the ladies who deserve to feel incredible in their underwear. Men, it’s time to feel yo’ self!

When it comes to sexy underwear, it’s usually women that get to have all the fun. The gals have an alluring variety of styles, colours and fabrics to choose from in this arena to delight themselves or their lover. Meanwhile, the gents have had to make do with a trusty pair of black boxers or designer briefs. Hardly fair, is it?

But if you (like us) think that it’s high time this changed, why not grab yourself or your lucky lad a sensual pair of underwear? If you don't know where to start, look no further than this Lovehoney advice guide. We’ve come up with our top tips to help you choose the perfect briefs or boxers to have yourself or your man feeling sexy and confident in (and out) of the bedroom.

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Why should I buy Men’s Lingerie?

There’s an array of reasons that your man could enjoy you adding a little lace or mesh to his boudoir ensemble.

  • Having a special piece of sexy clothing for playtime works to boost confidence, taking sexiness levels up a notch and making things all the more enjoyable for both of you.

  • Sensual fabrics like lace, satin or soft microfibre can add a playful element that you just don’t get from cotton supermarket underwear.

  • He may have been fantasising about wearing something a little bit sexy but could be too embarrassed to have brought it up. By gifting him this hot little number, he’ll know it’s a red hot move.

  • Just as lingerie can help women to feel powerful and desirable, sexy men’s underwear can do the same for guys. He’ll feel seductive as ever in a slinky pair of boxers or revealing thong.

How can I discuss dressing up?

If you're concerned that your partner may not be up for introducing men's lingerie into the repertoire, the best way to approach it is to talk to them about it.

Start by explaining how much you'd like to see them in your chosen underwear, and reassure them about how good they'd look, as their main concern is most likely that they might look silly rather than sexy. For a cheeky twist, you can offer to return the favour and wear a saucy outfit of their choice to set their mind at ease - a win-win!

Don't forget, they may need a little time to come around to the idea, and if they aren't comfortable, don't force it. It’s most important that you’re both enjoying yourselves and feeling sexy during playtime.

How Do I Choose a Pair?

Step 1. Find out what he likes


The key to buying sexy men’s underwear for your lover is by finding out what they feel most comfortable in. Though you might be taking things up a notch in the underwear department, you don’t want to take things too far and leave him feeling out of his depth. Take a peek into his wardrobe and take note of:

  • The size of briefs or boxers that he wears (e.g S, M, L)

  • The waist size of his trousers (34, 36, 38 etc.)

  • Which styles he tends to wear most (such as tight trunks or looser boxers)

  • Colours or patterns he enjoys wearing most (e.g. plain white, checks, stripes)

By doing so, you’ll start off on the right track to finding a pair he’ll truly love and feel comfortable wearing.

Step 2. Pick the style


When you’re deciding on a style of sexy male underwear, a fool-proof tactic is opting for a style you know that he’s worn before. However, if you’re unsure, here are some tips on how to choose the perfect style:

  • Trunks and tight boxers provide decent support and suit most body shapes. They're also great for making slender frames look bigger.

  • Briefs are super-comfortable, they fit easily under clothes and look super flattering on men who carry more weight on their legs and bums than on their upper half.

  • Jockstraps, thongs and G-strings cling to and emphasise the size of your man's package as well as showing off his glorious booty.

Step 3. Choose the Material


Just like women’s lingerie, men’s sexy underwear comes in a range of fabrics and colours. From flirty lace to ultra-soft microfibre, sheer mesh to PVC, there’s a whole lot to choose from! Each fabric gives a different look and feel. Here are the top things to consider when choosing the right underwear material for your beau:

  • If you think your partner would enjoy a more feminine look, lace or satin are the perfect way to go.

  • If you're into fetish play or your partner feels sexiest in a kinkier look, wet look or PVC is an ideal choice.

  • If you’d like to play it safe to start but still want to keep it super sexy, search for sheer mesh panels or skintight spandex.

  • Keep an eye out for other little details that your man will like, such as lacing or pop open panels that allow him to choose how much to reveal.

Step 4. Check the sizing

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Most of the Lovehoney men's underwear is sized by Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large, making it nice and easy to find the right fit. However, if your man is between sizes, here are a few tips on getting the best fit:

  • Check the size of his favourite clothes and underwear. If he wears them frequently, it's probably because they're the most comfortable and fit best.

  • Look at the brand size chart underneath the description on the item page to see how he measures up against it. Many brands use slightly different measurements between sizes, so be sure to check.

  • Read the customer reviews to see what people who have already bought the item said about the fit. This can be really helpful if you're torn between two sizes.

  • When in doubt, go for a one size fits all item. These are usually super-stretchy or come with a variety of fastenings, designed to fit a range of sizes (but not all, so be careful).

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So, what are you waiting for?

Surprise and delight your man by gifting them sexy underwear that says ‘I love your body’.

Shop Lovehoney’s range of sexy men’s underwear today and enjoy discreet shipping.

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