Beginner’s Guide To Dildos

Written by Written by Lauren Payne, 22nd November 2022

New to the world of dildos? Let us show you around so you can find one that suits your favourite style of penetration.

Why use a Dildo?

Whether you’re inviting your lover into the fun, or saving it all for yourself, there are so many benefits to bringing a dildo into the bedroom.

How do you use a dildo? Well, dildos are incredibly versatile. They can be used in so many different ways, by absolutely anyone, and are made from a wide variety of materials, making them perfect for sexual experimentation.

Dildos don’t have to just be used during sex either. They can also be a prelude to sex, by helping you get aroused, and warm up your muscles before penetration.

Many dildos are blessed with a suction-cup base, which makes them ideal for hands-free fun, and helps them stay in place when you’re using a strap-on harness. Dildos with a flared base can also be used vaginally and anally, so everyone can get in on the fun.

So, whether you’re looking to try temperature play, or crave fuller penetration, there’s bound to be a dildo out there that’s perfect for you.

What is the best Dildo?

When you’re wanting to try a dildo for the first time, all you’d probably want to do is type ‘beginner dildo’ into Google and be presented with the perfect option. Unfortunately that doesn’t always work.

We all have different tastes and turn-ons, and the world of dildos is so big that it can be very easy to get overwhelmed by all the different options. Luckily that’s where we come in!

We want to help you learn everything you need to know about dildos so you can make an informed choice about your first penetration pal. If you’ve ever asked yourself how is a dildo made, or how dildo sex can ramp up your orgasms, then you’ve come to the right place.

We’ve broken down our main dildo categories for you so you can see what’s out there and choose the perfect dildo for you.

Silicone Dildos


Silicone dildos are one of the most common dildos you’ll come across. They’re skin-safe, hygienic, boilable, bleachable, hypoallergenic, odourless, tasteless, and non-toxic. Basically, they’re one of the best types of beginner dildo you’ll ever come across.

Quite a few sex toys these days are made from silicone. From vibrators to butt plugs and cock rings, silicone has become one of the most popular materials to use when designing sex toys because not only is it body-safe but it’s also extremely smooth.

If you’re looking for a dildo built to last and that is easy to insert, then a silicone dildo may just be the dildo for you. Take a look at our range see just how exciting a silicone dildo can be.

Realistic Dildos


Realistic dildos may seem a bit intense at first, but once you’ve given them a whirl, you’ll find that they’re an incredible bedroom companion. People love realistic dildos because not only do they look and feel like a real penis but because they’re also incredibly easy to handle and have been around forever.

Realistic dildos also come in a variety of shapes and sizes, so you can start off with something small before graduating to a larger size down the line. A lot of realistic dildos also come with a suction base so you can enjoy hands-free play. You can also find some with a flared base so they can be inserted into a strap-on harness.

If you’re looking for a dildo that feels like the real thing and can be used in a variety of different ways, then a realistic dildo might be the way to go. Explore our range of realistic dildos to see why everyone considers these types of dildos to be an absolute classic.

Glass Dildos


Most glass dildos are made from solid borosilicate glass. This means that, although they may look delicate, glass dildos are actually incredibly strong, allowing you to safely explore your most sensitive erogenous zones without worrying about breakages.

Glass dildos are great for G-spot and prostate stimulation and are also durable enough for temperature play. So if you’ve ever wondered what a nice, cold dildo would feel like on a hot summer’s day, then a glass dildo can help you find out.

One of the best things about glass dildos, other than their durability, is their look. Glass dildos are becoming increasingly popular because they’re so aesthetically pleasing, and honestly, who wouldn’t want something this gorgeous sitting on their bedside table?! If you’re on the hunt for a dildo that looks good and feels good, then our range of glass dildos may help you find exactly what you need.

Inflatable Dildos


Oh yeah. Inflatable dildos do exist, and depending on what you’re using them for, they’ll be able to give you toe-curling climaxes. Inflatable dildos are made of flexible latex and can be pumped up with air to give you a nice lengthy, and girthy, dildo to play with.

If you’ve never used a dildo before, we recommend starting with a smaller size, and slowly working your way up to a larger girth. Inflatable dildos can give you a very full feeling and help you stretch your way to orgasm, so starting off small will help train your muscles before you bring a wider dildo into the mix.

If you think an inflatable dildo might be for you, take a look at our range and see which one excites you the most.

Metal Dildos


Metal dildos are pretty similar to glass dildos for a few reasons. They’re both durable, come in a variety of different shapes, and are great for temperature play. The main difference between a glass dildo and a metal dildo, however, is that metal dildos are a lot heavier and can provide you with fuller-feeling penetration.

Metal dildos are easy to insert, making them a great beginner dildo, and have a variety of uses. They can not only be inserted vaginally but they can also be inserted anally, and can even be used as a back massager before sex. So if you’re wanting to loosen up any muscle tension, or get yourself or a partner feeling more aroused, a metal dildo may be just what you need.

A metal dildo is a great all-rounder and if that sounds like your kind of thing, take a look at our range and see if you can find a new favourite.

Realistic Dildo Vibrators


If you’re already a fan of realistic dildos and are looking for a bit of an upgrade, then a realistic dildo vibrator may just be what you’re looking for. As we’ve already mentioned, realistic dildos provide you with the look and feel of a real penis and can be used for hands-free stimulation. Add titillating vibrations and you’re in for a wild ride!

Many realistic dildo vibrators can be moulded from the penises of real people and can sometimes look more lifelike than their dormant counterparts. They can also feel more lifelike as the vibrations within the dildo help it pulsate during penetration.

Anyone looking for an extremely lifelike dildo should try one of our realistic dildo vibrators because they’ll be able to give you all of the same incredible sensations as the real thing.

Anal Dildos


An anal dildo can sometimes raise some questions. How do you use a dildo made for anal sex? How is an anal dildo different to a butt plug? Well these dildos are actually specifically made for anal insertion and can be very different from your regular run-of-the-mill dildo.

First, anal dildos are generally slimmer and can have a few more curves and swerves moulded into the shaft to help stimulate all of the sensitive nerve endings that get tickled during anal sex. Secondly, anal dildos are crafted to target the prostate and G-spot, so they can be enjoyed by both men and women who enjoy a bit of back door action.

We have so many anal dildos for you to choose from, so why not take a look and see if your next anal sex experience could use a dildo.

Dildo Harnesses and Kits


How does a strapless dildo work? It’s a question a lot of people new to dildos ask us. There are, of course, two answers. You can either hold the dildo in your hand, or you can add it onto a strap-on harness.

Dildo harnesses are great for pegging and every kind of penetration, making them a whole bunch of fun, especially for couples. If you have a favourite dildo that just happens to have a flared base, you can insert it into your dildo harness and experiment with a variety of new positions and angles of penetration. You can also buy strap-on harness kits that come with their very own dildos if your favourite dildo isn’t harness compatible.

Dildo harnesses and strap-on kits are some of the most exciting toys you can use in the bedroom, and if they’re sounding like something you want to add to your toolkit, take a look at our range harness dildos to see if one fits the bill.

Double-Ended Dildos


Oh, the fun you can have with a double-ended dildo! When it comes to a double-ended dildo, how to use them is really up to you. You can share them with a partner, try double penetration, or simply use one end by yourself if you like a little extra length.

Double-ended dildo sex can be incredibly exciting. A lot of these dildos are able to twist and bend in a lot of different ways, allowing you to explore an array of new positions and more complex levels of penetration.

Anyone looking to explore new ways of using a dildo should take a look at our range of double-ended dildos, because there’s really no limit to how much fun you can have with them.

Large Dildos


Large dildos are exactly what it says on the tin. They’re longer dildos, with more girth, for anyone who loves a fuller feeling during penetration.

A large dildo isn’t exactly a great choice for beginners, as some of them can be truly massive. However, if you’ve used dildos for a while then a large dildo might be exactly what you need to fully enhance your orgasms. Large dildos come in a range of colours, sizes and styles, but most of them tend to fall into the more realistic dildo category. So if you’re already a fan of realistic dildos, a large realistic dildo will no doubt sound even more stimulating.

If you think you’re ready to take on the might of a large dildo, explore our range to find one to add to your mighty sex toy collection.

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