The Lovehoney Guide to Prostate Massagers

If you’ve never enjoyed the thrill of prostate play, then you’re missing out.

Discovering your prostate gland – or your P-spot – isn't that difficult, but truly harnessing its pleasure-giving potential can take a bit of time and skill, which is why we’re here to help.

Located a few inches inside the anus on the wall closest to the stomach, the prostate gland, is an incredible epicentre of pleasure. Massaging it can lead to explosive full-body orgasms, hands-free 'super-Os' and even multiple climaxes.

Before we begin, if this is your first foray into prostate play we think the link below might be a better place for you to start.

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What are prostate massagers?

Prostate massagers are specifically designed to stimulate the P-spot. We generally recommend finding the area with your fingers first but feel free to go with whatever feels right for you. Once you’ve found the spot, you’re off to the races, with both vibrating and non-vibrating prostate sex toys ready and willing to give you powerful P-spot orgasms.

Most prostate massagers, like the Lovehoney Booty Buddy have a tapered tip to ease insertion and a rounded head to ensure stimulation in the right spot.

Certain toys, such as the Mantric Rechargeable Remote Control Prostate Vibrator, feature a wireless remote, allowing you to enjoy seamless anal vibrations with a click of a button.

A lot of them also feature an external arm to give extra attention to the perineum, the sensitive area between the anus and the scrotum, which essentially stimulates the prostate from a different angle and dials up the intensity.

we-vibe vector - prostate guide

Although many people see larger prostate massagers as more advanced, the bigger ones, like the We-Vibe Vector+, are actually ideal for beginners as they find your P-spot much more easily.

Massagers with smaller tips, like the Aneros Helix Syn Trident Silicone Prostate Massager make it slightly harder to find the prostate gland but can make the experience more powerful.

Deciding on whether you want a prostate massager with vibrations or not is a personal choice. Just remember - you can turn vibrations off if you don’t like them but you can’t add them to a non-vibrating prostate massager.

Whichever type of prostate massager you decide to go for, the way to use them is much the same.

How to use a prostate toy

Get clean

With your bum's day job being what it is, it doesn't take a genius to work out why anal exploration takes a little extra prep to make sure you're clean. Being clean isn't just for hygiene – knowing that you're squeaky clean down below should help you relax and enjoy your prostate experience more, too.

“It’s easy to assemble and works a charm. That feeling of filling yourself up with water alone is enough to turn you on and get you ready for anal play.” - Kdot80

For most people, being clean is as simple as making sure you’ve been to the toilet that day (so there’s no poop waiting to evacuate) and having a good wash in the bath or shower prior to using your massager. If you’d like to take extra precautions, you can also use an anal douche to flush your anus about 45 minutes before you’d like to enjoy your prostate massager.

Like any adult toy, you'll also want to give your prostate massager a good clean before and after you use it. The post-play clean-up for an anal toy is extra important though.

When you're dealing with any kind of bum fun, there's always going to be the risk of uninvited (but very natural) guests from your body showing up and bacteria which can potentially be harmful if you're not practising good hygiene. Spend at least 30 seconds washing your toy with warm water and a mild soap or toy cleaner, leave it to air dry and then store it separately.

Love your lubricant

It’s always important to use lubricant to get the best glide from your toys, but it’s especially vital with prostate massagers, as the anus does not self-lubricate. No matter the size of your prostate massager or how experienced you are with them, you should be using lube.

“After a brief time of manual stimulation to relax myself and a generous application of lube I found I had no trouble in inserting the product.” - Mafro

The type of lubricant you use will depend on the material your prostate massager is made from, but a good quality water-based anal lubricant will be compatible with the widest range of toys.


Get comfortable and warm up your body

If your prostate massager is a little larger than what you’re used to inserting anally, be sure to take time warming up with your favourite anal toy or even your own fingers before you get started.

“Once I toyed with it for a bit I pushed it all the way home and the head of it slid up against my prostate effortlessly and near made me orgasm straight away. Once I had got used to it pressing up against my P-spot the sensations that it was causing were exquisite.” - pkm85

Cover the prostate massager in your chosen lube, then position yourself comfortably, either on your back with your legs raised or bent over with your upper body leaning on a couch or bed. Slowly slide your prostate massager inside, inch-by-inch, making sure to pause if you experience discomfort so your body can adjust to the new sensations. Say it with us – anal play should never hurt!

Pro tip: If you’re feeling fully relaxed and appropriately lubed up but you’re still struggling to insert your toy, try "bearing down" (as if you were trying to do a bowel movement) to push out and open up the muscles in your rear.

Find the most satisfying place

Once you have inserted the toy, grip the base of it and begin with a rubbing motion, tilting your toy so the tip moves around the prostate gland, making a mental note of which areas feel especially nice. Some toys like the Lovehoney High Roller have a shaft which rotates inside of you, meaning you can leave it to do the exploring while you pleasure yourself elsewhere.

Try applying more pressure to the area and seeing what effect it has on your body. Many people find that firm pressure brings them closer (or all the way) to orgasm.

You might also like to rock it in an up-and-down motion, where the toy strokes over the prostate gland rapidly for more consistent, quick stimulation. With experience, some people find that they can achieve a hands-free orgasm by clenching and releasing their muscles and letting the toy move with the body.

If your toy vibrates, try exploring those settings once you’ve found a satisfying position for your prostate-massager – the additional stimulation feels amazing!

“The functions this has range from a solid vibrate all the way through to random pulses of varying degrees of intensity. Each one bringing both stimulation from inside and outside. ” - GayBaker

The most important thing to remember is to go slowly and experiment. If the first toy you try doesn't do it for you, don't give up. Everyone is different and it’s all about finding the right fit, angle and sensation to really get you going.

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