How to Use a Sex Doll

Wrtitten by Emma Maidens, 27th January 2023

Whether it's a classic blow-up sex doll, or a more deluxe lifelike model, Lovehoney are here to give you the lowdown on how to use your sexy new female or male sex doll.

A sex doll is a type of sex toy that’s designed to look and feel like a real person.

There’s no one reason people choose to use a sex doll. Some will incorporate them to take solo play up a notch or may simply not feel comfortable pursuing a relationship at the time.

Couples can also use sex dolls to spice up their sex life by adding a third into sex or to explore things you don’t feel comfortable to do with a partner yet.

Sex dolls aren’t just designed for people with penises either - there’s a larger range than ever before to suit you and your needs, whether that be a female or male sex doll.

Choosing a sex doll

Choosing a sex doll that’s right for you is the first step to ensuring you have a satisfying experience.

Before making a purchase, think about what you’re looking for. This can be down to anatomical parts: do you want your doll to have breasts, the ability for anal play, a vagina, or a penis?

It can also be worth considering more specific aesthetic details like colour of hair you find most appealing. There are also functional considerations like the weight of the doll, as you’ll need to move it, and weather you want bonus features like vibration.

Once you have an idea of what you’re looking for, your shopping will be easier.

While you may be tempted to look into how to make a sex doll, it’s highly recommended that you only purchase professional sex dolls. Looking after your sexual health is important, and using items that aren’t intended to be used as sex toys can have nasty results.

This isn’t a time to skrimp. Invest in the real thing and enjoy the benefits.

If you’re not up for making the full investment just yet, there are also options if you don’t require the entire doll, like realistic fake vaginas, realistic fake butts and realistic dildos.

Get prepped

After you’ve carefully unpacked your sex doll and assembled it, following the supplied instructions, you’ll need to clean your sex doll before use.

Think of it like washing an apple before you eat it, you’ll want to remove any dirt or bacteria that’s settled during your dolls journey before they arrive with you.

After you’ve done this, it’s time to set the scene.

Set the scene


If you’re interested in some added realism, think about what will set the mood for you.

A candle, blankets and pillows or your favourite playlist in the background may be all it takes to fully immerse yourself in the experience.

Lay your doll on the bed and touch it and yourself - however you wish to get you aroused.

Let there be lube


Whether lifelike or inflatable, sex dolls love lubricant just as much as their living, breathing counterparts. Depending on how many entry points your doll has, you may need to lube their vagina, ass and mouth as well as your penis to enjoy slick, satisfying sensations.

“It is worth pointing out that you will require some lubricant of some description as realistic vaginas and asses are snug.” - Little Strummer Boy

Most sex dolls have entrances made of real-feel material, so they are not compatible with oil or silicone-based lubricants (which will degrade the material). To be on the safe side, always choose your favourite water-based lube to use with your doll.

Dress them up


Sex dolls are shaped like real people, so you can really upgrade your experience by dressing them up in sultry lingerie, clothes, or by adding a wig.

“She looks and feels beautiful, even more so when dressed in lingerie or clothes. She will stand when propped up, even wearing high heel shoes, giving her an even more lifelike appearance.” - DazBaz

Adding a spritz of a perfume or cologne you can’t get enough of is another great way to increase the realism of your experience with your doll. If you’re going to stick to one scent, spray it in their hair for long lasting hits of fragrance throughout play.

If you want to change their scent up, apply to an area that can be washed clean.

If you’re not looking for a relationship with another person, sex dolls also make great company. There are even some soft, teddy-bear-like dolls that are ideal for cuddling and enjoying without penetrative sex.

Clean your Sex Doll

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After your fun, it’s important to properly clean your sex doll to extend their lifespan. The good news is that sex dolls are generally quick and easy to clean.

When you’ve finished using your sex doll, follow the cleaning instructions that came with your toy. Depending on what material your doll is made of, the cleaning method may differ.

Most inflatable sex dolls are constructed from a PVC material, while more lifelike options will be different.

Often the vagina, penis or anus components will be removeable for easier cleaning. Invest in a sex toy cleaner and a lifelike sex toy renew powder and your doll will be clean and ready for their next use.


Try new positions


You can move your doll just like you might do a partner, and as a result you’ll be able to try out positions you’ve always wanted to explore while prioritising your comfort and enjoyment.

“This means you can really experiment with lots of different types of positions without breaking anything!” - AdieMX-5

Inflatable sex dolls are generally not too flexible or posable, but they can be light enough that you can easily change position with them in the heat of the moment. More sculpted, lifelike sex dolls are heavier and may limit your ability to spontaneously change position, but they tend to have core skeletons which let them really pose and flex into realistic positions.

Ménage à trois

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If you and your partner have always considered trying a threesome but don’t want the complication of adding a whole other person to your relationship, a sex doll could be just the compromise you’re looking for.

“It was such a turn-on watching my hubby take us both one at a time. He was also able to perform oral sex on me whilst doing her in the missionary position, making it ideal for threesomes.” - Delboy1991

Try giving a third a try in the bedroom with a doll you both agree on.

Have fun!

Sex dolls are a great addition to any sex toy repertoire, both for couples and solo play. Have fun choosing your new playmate, and then enjoy exploring your sexuality in whichever way you choose.

Be sure to use your toy responsibly and always follow the manufacturers care instructions.

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