What is Pegging?

Can anyone peg (or be pegged)?

Anyone can enjoy pegging or being pegged, no matter their sex, sexuality or gender identity. If you already have a penis, you can peg and be pegged. Whether you go by he/him she/her or they/them — there are zero gender role rules about who gets to explore this sexual practice.

When Dan Savage first coined the term “pegging”, he wanted a word to describe a heterosexual cis woman penetrating her male partner with a sex toy. But a lot has changed since then. Now, the definition of pegging has expanded to be way more inclusive.

With the help of a hollow strap-on, men can try pegging too. It can be appealing if you have erectile dysfunction or want to experiment with bigger penis size or girth. Some women also prefer to use hollow strap-ons because they’re much lighter than regular silicone dildos.

What does pegging feel like?

The truth is, pegging can feel different for everyone, depending on the type of sexual experience you're looking for. That said, if you have a prostate (also known as the male g-spot), pegging can be an incredible way of stimulating it.

The prostate sits around two inches inside the rectum and is stimulated by anal penetration. This means that stroking or massaging it with fingers and sex toys can be intensely pleasurable (and even beneficial for your health).

Anal penetration isn’t only for men though. A lot of women enjoy anal too, as it can make orgasms feel even more intense. One reason for that may be that it stimulates the back of the vaginal wall. Whether or not that’s true for you, anal play can be a very intimate, sensual, and exciting experience for women.

Pegging can make you feel powerful and dominant, while being pegged can feel like a thrilling act of submission. Some straight men are surprised to find out how intimate it is to be penetrated, enjoying the closeness they feel with their partner. Pegging might give you a sense of gender euphoria as well as mind-blowing orgasms.

How to peg your partner

If you think pegging (or being pegged) is for you, then it's time to learn how to do it. Follow our step-by-step guide for pegging beginners below.

1. Start by talking about it

Hey, bringing up a new desire with your partner can be a little scary. But if you’re excited to try pegging, you’re more likely to intrigue your partner if they fully understand what pegging is and why you find the idea so sexy.

Even if everyone’s onboard, talking about before you begin can keep you safe. “With strap-ons, it's hard to really judge how deep, fast and hard the giver is going,” says LIL_KNOWN69 on the Lovehoney forum. “You need to have honest communication until your boundaries have been established.”

Before you bring out the strap-on, discuss ground rules and expectations with your partner, especially if this is your first time giving anal sex a go.

2. Choose your equipment

One of the fun things about pegging is there’s a version for everyone!

If you're a little bit nervous about the size, or don’t want anything that feels too “penis-y”, this beginner-friendly strap-on kit is perfect for learning the ropes. It has an adjustable harness and a five-inch pegging dildo to ease you in. When you're feeling more confident, you can swap out the dildo for something more advanced, like a double penetration strap-on.

You also don’t always have to put the “straps” in strap-on. Some people find it difficult to get used to harnesses with straps. So, you could take a look at harnesses that fit more like briefs for a softer (and, dare we say, stylish?!) fit.