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The BDSM community are a group who practise Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism.

If you’re interested in aspects of BDSM and you’re ready to further explore your sexuality – that’s great!

If you have a partner or partners who want to go on this journey with you, then there are exciting times ahead. However, it can be hard to know where to start if you’re single.

Here’s some advice for those of you who are sexy, single and ready to discover the world of BDSM.

Every time I come out as pansexual I have received comments like ‘Pfft, that’s not a real thing’, ‘So… you’re bi?’, ‘PANsexual?! Do you like pots too?’ or ‘What, you’re hot for Peter Pan?’.

Trust me, I’ve heard it all.

Even though I did have a huge crush on Jeremy Sumpter as a child and a non-stick frying pan does make my heart flutter, these remarks make me eye-roll so hard that in the moment, I choose to label myself as bisexual instead.

After talking to some other pan-pals, I know my experience is pretty common.

So, I’m here to shine a light on pansexuality, we’ll explore its definition, how it compares to other sexualities and I’ll give a bit of an insight to what it means for me to be pansexual.

Sometimes, sex just seems to happen. Other times, getting into the right mindspace is a little more difficult - especially after a day of meetings, an hour spent in traffic or a weekend enduring your in-laws.

Creating the right mood and environment, whatever that means to you, can really help, so we've put together a few tips to help you set the scene for sexytime.

It may take a little bit of planning and communication, but when you're basking in that post-bonk glow, you'll be delighted you made the effort.

Passport? Check.

Sunscreen? Check.

Vibrator? Check.

If, like me, you convince yourself you can pack a whole holiday’s worth of essentials into one carry-on bag (rolling your clothes is the answer, people), then you’ve probably experienced the 'hairdryer or sex toy' dilemma.

As far as I’m concerned, my Mantric wand has just as much right to a corner of my suitcase as my hair straighteners and 7 pairs of shoes.

And though I know the humidity will turn my hair into a fuzzy mess as soon as I get off the plane, and I'll shuffle around in the same pair of flipflops all week, at least I'll have great orgasms.

If you can’t bear to leave your trusty plaything behind, then here are a few tips for taking your toys on holiday.

What is Pegging? 

Pegging is effectively "strap-on sex". So what's the difference between pegging and strap-on sex?

It all comes down to who's doing what.

Strap-on Sex (definition): A person of any gender penetrates another person, using a strap-on.

Pegging (definition): A person with a clitoris penetrates a person with a penis using a strap-on.

This gender-bending sex act leans on role reversal, so it's no surprise that you'll need to think a little outside the box when it comes to sex positions.

So, whether you're looking for an easy position for first-time pegging, or just fancy trying some new tricks, here are my top 5 positions for pegging.

Think I missed one? Tell me in the comments!

Buying something with the sole intention of using it in the bedroom to enhance your sex life is, well, a real commitment to your sex life and partner.

There’s a whole sea of guides and articles with recommendations of sex toys for heterosexual couples, but these may well be met with a blank stare if you’re in a lesbian or gay relationship.

Many sex toys can be used by any ‘body’, alone or with a partner, but to help you find the best of the best sex toys for female-female couples and male-male couples, we’ve scoured our customer reviews, sought advice from our community members and spoken to our in-house experts.

Put your hands together for the line up of the best sex toys for same-sex couples: