How to Choose Your First Sex Toy

by Lovehoney

on May 2, 2017

Want to experiment with sex toys but not sure where to start? This guide explains how to choose the perfect beginner's sex toy for you, and shows you how to find exactly what you're looking for at Lovehoney.

Whether you want to start off small with a bullet vibrator or fancy trying an anal sex toy, we've used customer reviews to pick out the best beginners toys for you to try. Happy shopping!

Above: Whether you're buying for yourself or someone else, there are some things you need to know before you buy a sex toy. Watch this video guide with Jess Wilde to find out the 7 things you must know before you shop.

What do you like?

I'm a WOMAN looking for… Try a…
External clitoral stimulation Clitoral Vibrator, Bullet Vibrator, Extra Powerful Vibrators
Internal vaginal or G-spot stimulation Dildo, Classic Vibrator, G-Spot Vibrator
Both clitoral and vaginal stimulation Rabbit Vibrator
Lifelike look and feel Realistic Dildo, Realistic Dildo Vibrator
Something very discreet Mini Vibrator, Extra Quiet Vibrator
I'm a MAN looking for… Try a…
Lifelike look and feel Realistic Vagina, Fleshlight
Discreet and non-anatomical Male Masturbator, TENGA Toy
Realistic sex Sex Doll
Prostate stimulation Prostate Massager
We're a COUPLE looking for… Try a…
A sex toy to improve sex Vibrating Cock Ring, Cock Ring
A sex toy to use together on him Male Masturbator, TENGA Toy
A sex toy to use together on her Bullet Vibrator, Remote Control Vibrator
Something a bit kinky Blindfold, Feather Tickler, Pair of Handcuffs

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  1. How to choose your first sex toy

    Happy Rabbit Curve Rechargeable Rabbit VibratorWhen you're buying your first sex toy, your budget will probably be one of the biggest factors in choosing the perfect toy.

    Starting with less expensive sex toys is a good way to experiment, but just getting the cheapest thing in the sale without thinking about if it's right for you may lead to disappointment. Remember to look at customer reviews as well as price.

    Luxury sex toys, like the Happy Rabbit Curve Rechargeable Rabbit Vibrator really are worth the extra spend: they're made from better quality materials, they'll last longer and they're usually rechargeable so you can recoup the cost of batteries.

    However, it's sensible to know what you like before you splash out on an expensive toy that will be with you for the long haul.

    We've put together some tips below to help you choose the best sex toy for you, first time round!

    1. Check the details

    When you've spotted a toy in your budget that takes your fancy, check the details on the product page carefully.

    Product Details

    How it measures up: Find out just how big that toy is. More important than the overall length is the insertable length, as is the circumference (which is measured at the widest girth of the toy). Will this be a comfortable fit for you?

    How it feels: A toy can look rigid in the product picture, when it's actually a flexible friend. Check the nitty gritty of the material specifications here, and take note of whether you can take the toy into the bathroom for underwater play - submersible toys are also easier to keep clean.

    Power and speed: Check exactly what types of vibration are in store, as well as what type of power the toy takes and what batteries you need for your sex toy.

    2. Watch the videos

    Watch the new sqweel go in action!The most popular products on Lovehoney have videos that demonstrate how they work. As well as showing you how the sex toy works and what it will do for you, seeing a toy in someone's hands is another great way to check that your first sex toy is the right size for you. You can also get a good sense of how loud a toy is from a video demonstration.

    3. Read the reviews

    Lovehoney has over [[stats:reviews]] reviews written by real people who have bought, used and rated their sex toys. When you view a particular product, you’ll see it has a star rating. This is a quick and easy way to see how good a product is - the more stars it has, the better.

    If you fancy researching more, you can scroll down further and read full reviews about the product including details about how easy it is to use, how powerful it is, how noisy it is and what the packaging is like.

    What does Lovehoney recommend?

  1. Lovehoney Small Love Egg

    Lovehoney Small Love Egg

    Best seller: Lovehoney Small Love Egg

  2. Lovehoney Shine On Mini Vibrator

    Lovehoney Shine On Mini Vibrator

    Best seller: Lovehoney Shine On Sunset Ombre Mini Vibrator

  3. Lovehoney Ignite Finger Vibrator

    Lovehoney Ignite Finger Vibrator

    Best seller: Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Finger Vibrator

  1. Need more help?

    You can contact Lovehoney Customer Care, who will be able to help you find the perfect toy. You can send an email, and telephone or live chat to an experienced advisor.

    Remember that when you shop at Lovehoney, everything is delivered in Lovehoney's discreet packaging so the only person getting excited by your delivery is you.


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Originally published on May 2, 2017. Updated on Aug 6, 2020