Our Top Toys for Trans People

Navigating sex, masturbation and pleasure can be tricky for anyone to do let alone someone who is transgender. What can be uncomfortable for some can be straight up traumatic for others but it doesn’t mean it’s not something everyone deserves and can work towards. At Lovehoney, we want everyone to feel sexual happiness in their lives - it’s why we do what we do.

Sex toys can be wonderful tools for pleasure regardless of who you are inside or out. The inclusivity and diversity we see growing in the industry is empowering; however we know we’ve got a long way to go in terms of products made for all kinds, and more specifically, trans people. That’s not to say there’s nothing to work with in this space.

We made this list to highlight the best toys and products for trans men and women, whether they are going through HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy), have had gender-affirming surgery or are experiencing gender dysphoria. It’s also worth mentioning, this list isn’t solely for this group and can be used as a guide for gender nonconforming (GNC) people as well.

Before we begin, a note on language. This blog will stick to anatomical terms for body parts in order to be as clear as possible, however we know the way people choose to identify themselves and their bodies is not so straight forward. There are many words we can use to talk about genitals but it is difficult to ensure they will be both affirming and accessible to everyone.

If the words clitoris, vulva, vagina, penis or testicles make you feel uncomfortable in any way, a browser extension can be added to this page to automatically swap out these words for something of your choice.

None of the language we’ve used on this page is gendered, however if you click through to a couple of the products, some of the descriptions used there do include minimal amounts. We’ve tried to include as much information as possible for you on this page so you don’t have to scroll down if you decide you’d like to purchase something.

While these kinds of sleeves were originally designed for cisgendered penis-owners, their compact nature makes them suitable for FTM (Female To Male) people as well. If someone has had bottom surgery, the phalloplasty penis may have different levels of sensation in different areas meaning you can manoeuvre a stroker like this one into the right position for you.

For those who are taking hormones which can make their clitoris grow, small, textured strokers (this one is 2.5 inches in length and 1 inch in diameter) can work well for stimulation on smaller sized genitals with or without the vibrations on. It also avoids hand contact which can help if dysphoria is an issue.

Much-loved Japanese masturbation brand, TENGA does wonders in terms of creating toys which work amazingly well and are non-phallic in design. Like the other strokers we’ve mentioned here, this masturbator has a ridged texture and is elastic for enhanced sensations. It can envelop phalloplasty penises and smaller hormonally grown penises as it measures 2.5 inches in insertable length but has a small penetrative hole that can stretch up to 12 inches before bouncing back into shape. See the full TENGA range here for more.

Arguably one of the most versatile and inclusive of sex toys, if you’ve got a working hand and arm, you’ll no doubt be able to find a way to get erotic from these little pocket rockets. During play, trail a bullet vibe all over your partner’s or your body, taking extra care and time around your external erogenous zones like your neck, lips and stomach. Beware of your nipples if you are going through hormone therapy as they can be quite sensitive.

A bullet vibe can also feel incredible against your genitals if you are comfortable using it there. Pinpoint vibrations mean you can explore what and where feels good to you regardless of where you are on your transgender journey.

By using a non-realistic dildo, the expectations on what a penis “should” look like is completely removed, leaving the space to focus on the pleasure penetration can bring for the user. Featuring a suction cup base and a slim, 5 inch length, the Lovehoney Slimline Silicone Suction Cup Dildo is ideal for strap-on play, hands-free penetration and masturbation.

If you take a look at the reviews for this product, you’ll find heaps of people raving about how it has helped with vaginismus, tightness and pain during penetrative sex. Inspire’s dilator kit is also perfect for anyone who is recovering from vaginoplasty surgery and has to dilate their new vagina. These easy-to-use toys are silicone soft, tapered at the tip and come with a loop for gripping and trying different angles.

While we don’t recommend using these as a replacement for the dilators your doctor has given you post-surgery, they are a great addition to the recovery process thanks to their curved design, gradual growth and ultra-comfortable feel.

Internal vibrations can feel amazing when you are using the right toy for you. If vaginal insertion is something you or your partner are comfortable with, a thin, flexible vibe to start with is the way to go.

This Svakom vibe is super soft and doesn’t get girthier than 3 inches circumference which can make insertion much less intimidating. Try it out on your own to make sure you are feeling relaxed and confident before using with a partner if this is one of your first times experiencing a vibrator inside your vagina.

After something a bit more affordable? Here is another excellent slimline vibe made by Lovehoney.

The world is your oyster when it comes to anal play because everyone has got anus. With thousands of nerve endings in and around the anus, it can be just as arousing to stimulate that area and avoid your front genitals all together, especially if you or your partner are experiencing dysphoria.

Techniques like rimming and fingering can feel amazing for the receiver and toys can add an extra bit of oomph to the experience. Vibrating butt plugs and anal massagers can provide titillating stimulation to the inside and outside with some people reporting orgasms from them without ever touching their vulva or penis. This can also be achieved from toys like metal dildos which are super hygienic and create a satisfying feeling when inserted thanks to their weight.

Small but powerful, finger vibrators are brilliant tools for pleasure if you experience little to no dysphoria as they are essentially an extension of the wearer’s finger. This means you can avoid skin-to-skin contact if you need to while still being connected to the activity, potentially growing your comfort levels with your body parts and their pleasure.

Some trans people who haven’t had gender-affirming surgery or who suffer from gender dysphoria might find it easier to be sexual while keeping their underwear on.

Running a strong vibe like a magic wand over the top of your partner’s or your underwear to stimulate the penis or vagina can feel great and lets you explore a range of sensations. Some vibrators are also made to be worn inside your underwear and are remote or app-controlled for complete hands-free pleasure. The Moxie features a magnetic clip which allows you to attach it to whatever pair you like - add a dollop of water-based lube to its head and pop them on for delicious vibes.

For those wanting to try strap-on play, Lovehoney has underwear which feature pockets for compatible toys to attach to. For transgender males, they are also a soft and secure way to pack in your day-to-day life as they look like normal underwear and hold your bulge in place.

Being able to bend your toy into different shapes is an awesome feature regardless of how you identify. Hands-free and wearable during sex and masturbation on pre or post penises and vaginas, the Lovehoney rechargeable couple’s vibrator can be used as a penis ring, clitoral or G-spot vibrator. It's a winner for trans folk as it can be whatever you and your body need it to be.

For more wearable pleasure during strap-on play, penis in vagina penetration and vagina to vagina sex, try the we-vibe chorus.

Everybody can reap the benefits of a suction toy on whatever body parts they have. As the name suggests, suction toys like this one have been designed for cis gendered females to use on their clitoris however, it can also feel incredible on your nipples, penis or even the anus. Test out the sucking head on all sensitive spots on your body to see what you can discover about yourself.