Position of the Week: Strummer

Lounge in your lover’s lap and enjoy their undivided attention with this ultra-comfy sexy side-saddle. Tune in to each other and go as long and lustfully as you like...

How?

Start with one partner sitting comfortably, keeping their feet flat to the floor and legs slightly apart. The other partner then climbs on and sits sideways across their lover’s lap, held in their arms.

Now you’re saddled up, the giver can strum away on the receiver’s sweet spots, using their hands, a clitoral suction toy or stroker.

Think of it like a cuddly, sideways piggyback. Or like one of you is a musician, and the other a muse... Both of you can relax, wrap your arms around each other, and move together however feels good.

Why?

The side-saddle setup gives the sitting partner access to their partner’s whole body, working just as well for slow, sensual penetration or teasing toys.

The closeness of your faces and bodies ups the intimacy and opens up the receiving partner for some serious worship. Think kissing, touching, whispering the dirtiest things you’ve ever thought of...

The Strummer is super adaptable – it’s designed with wheelchair users in mind but can be enjoyed by everyone. Since both partners are sitting, there’s less strain on knees or hips compared to standing or kneeling positions.

Make it even easier...

Using a chair with back support, armrests or padding can make it much more comfortable, or you may like to try cushions behind your back or under your hips to help with support.

If getting into place for the mounting partner is tricky, use a small step or footstool to help get up and settled. If you're enjoying this one as a penetration position, be sure to use lube and don’t expect wild thrusts!

Move slowly and use your hands to stay balanced. Keep communication open so you can tweak things as needed for comfort – it can be as gentle and supportive as you like.

Make it even better...

Bring in some toys to spoil the lover on your lap. Slip a remote-controlled toy, like the Romp Party Panty Vibe, into a pair of sexy underwear. Remote-controlled vibrators send thrilling vibrations to your lover’s sweet spots with minimal effort – ideal if you experience fatigue.

The panty vibe uses a small magnet to keep it in place, leaving your hands free to squeeze nipples or touch your lover. When you’re both totally turned on, it’s also super hot to pull those panties to the side and slide inside.

For penis play, the Arcwave Ion 2 gives heavenly, targeted pleasure that mimics oral sex, lavishing attention on the head of their penis while your lover bounces on your lap. A good suction stroker really makes this intimate position feel next-level electric.

Make it even kinkier...

Here, the Dom/sub dynamic begs to be taken advantage of – especially if the receiver enjoys being called a good girl...

Dandle the receiver on your lap and shower them with attention. Tell your lover exactly how you need them to slide up and down on your shaft, and how you enjoy playing with their body. Give instructions, guide their movements, talk dirty and let your dominance reign.

But uh oh, what if your lover is being a little bratty? Time to turn them over for a spank! Just remember, any kinky play is better when you talk through your expectations and boundaries first – and always respect your safe words.

Not the position for you?

We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.