Position of the Week: The Stroke Swap

Putting the “cum” in “comfortable”, the Stroke Swap is a sensual entanglement of lust and limbs. Lean back and feel in sync as you stroke your lover to climax.

How?

To get into the Stroke Swap, both partners lie on their backs, facing opposite directions, like a loose scissor shape. You’ll both drape one leg over the other’s torso, scooching close together to create a mutual overlap that allows for full access to each other's genitals.

Each partner uses their hand or a massage wand to stimulate their partner – in maximum comfort. This position works best on a soft, spacious surface (like a bed, obvi!) with pillows for extra neck and back support.

Why?

This mutual masturbation position is ideal for couples seeking delicious sensations and mega comfort. Since both partners are actively pleasuring each other, it creates a balanced and connected sexual experience.

It encourages you to be in the moment and focus on the sensation of touch, which can be super erotic and emotionally satisfying. It’s also non-penetrative, making it perfect for those lazy sessions where you’re stressed, bloated, or just plain tired!

Make it even easier

The Stroke Swap is a great position for low-effort lovin’, and can be simplified even further by adding in toys. If you don’t have much manual dexterity, grab a wand toy like the Lovehoney Power Play Dual Wand. It has an insertable vibrator for internal play as well as a soft, broad head for external stimulation. Take your pick!

The extra length of a magic wand extends your reach, while different vibration settings vary the intensity at the click of a button. Slather the insertable end of the Dual Wand (or a dildo) with lube and slide it slowly into your lover’s vagina or anus.

Make it even better

To enhance pleasure in this position, focus on building arousal, slowly and sensually. Use warm-up touches and massage oil on the feet and legs before working up to genital stimulation. Then, incorporate lube generously to reduce friction, allowing you to freely vary the speed and pressure of your strokes, alternating between hands and toys.

If you’re into penetration, explore dual stimulation by fingering your lover’s vagina or anus while they focus on touching their own genitals. Add in some up-close-and-personal dirty talk to intensify emotional intimacy, taking this position from teasing to powerfully orgasmic.

Make it even kinkier

The Stroke Swap is the perfect position for edging; bringing your partner close to orgasm, then intentionally backing off to delay climax. Begin by stimulating each other slowly, building arousal with strokes, teasing touches, or toys.

Try the Lovehoney Rose Glow 2-in-1 – the combination of internal love egg and pulsing clitoral stimulation will make vulva-owners gasp with pleasure. Plus, it’s oh so cute!

Watch for signs of nearing climax, such as quivering, breath changes, or vocal intensity, and ease up just before the peak. Pause or switch to lighter stimulation, then ramp up again. This creates waves of intense anticipation and can lead to stronger orgasms. Alternate control for mutual teasing or take turns focusing on one partner’s build-up.

Not the position for you?

We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.