Position of the Week: Slip & Grind

Wet, steamy, and incredibly space-efficient, this standing sex position is all about shared sensations. Try it in the shower or with a vibrator pressed between you for added thrills.

How?

Stand facing each other and rub water-based lube onto your penis or vulva. Bring your bodies close together, the receiver wrapping one leg around the giver's hip.

If you're raring to go for penetration, get straight into it. Otherwise, let the length of the giver's penis (if they have one) slide along the receiver's labia, enjoying the slippery sensual feeling as you press against each other.

Hot tip: Try it in the dark or with only the flickering light of a candle nearby. It'll help you focus on how your bodies feel and lose your inhibitions.

Why?

Amazing for tight spaces or shower sex, this one is about slowing down and feeling the sensuality of your bodies pressed together. Slowly rubbing yourselves together helps build arousal as you get in the right headspace for penetration and feel more connected.

It's also a fun, sexy way to feel pleasure when penetration isn't an option, whether that's because of painful sex caused by perimenopause or vaginismus – or any other reason.

Think of orgasm as a delicious bonus rather than the goal of your session and take all pressure off yourself to perform. This moment is all about being together and feeling your way toward pleasure.

Make it even better

If you're lucky enough to own the new We-Vibe Shared Touch, this is the position to try it! Dab both sides with water-based lube, then switch the deep, rumbly vibrations on with a quick press of the (+) button.

Let the winged, ribbed side of the toy cradle the giver's shaft while the curved vibrator presses against the receiver's clitoris. Kiss deeply as you slowly press and slide together, feeling the stimulation of the toy at the same time.

If neither of you have a penis, you could press a slim toy like the Mantric Clitoral Vibrator between you instead. You'll still both get to enjoy the vibes.

Make it even easier

Whether you're different heights or different physical abilities, standing may not be an option. You can, of course, just take this one horizontal while enjoying the same slow sex principle of grinding together.

To keep it a little interesting, try having one partner seated. If you're seated on low-ish furniture like a chair or couch, your partner can kneel in front of you and slide their shaft along your vulva (try bending your knees and putting your feet up next to you, if you're able).

Otherwise, you can sit on a table or counter with your partner standing.

Make it even kinkier

This position is all about letting sensation build until you're desperate for more. Take that feeling to the edge with a pussy pump or penis pump, which works using suction to bring the blood pumping into your genitals.

Circulation is a key mechanism in arousal, so this rush of blood can make you feel even more... engorged... and sensitive to touch. Just be sure to read the manual with your pump for safe usage.

For a bondage element, try a restraint that works behind your back, like the SEI MIO Neck Firmly in Check Restraint Kit. Truss up your lover and push them against the wall while you tease them with slow, sensual grinding.