The Lovehoney Guide to Anal Sex Toys

No matter your gender or sexual orientation, everyone has a butthole, and that butthole is packed with sensitive nerve endings that can feel amazing when stimulated.

Anal play is great. There. We said it. Why else would we make so many toys tailored especially for your booty? Also, it should never (EVER) hurt and, with proper preparation and slow progression, can be a completely new (and potentially more intense) way to climax.

Read on to discover our top tips for exploring your back door's delights in the most pleasurable way possible.

So where do you begin? If you’re not sure yet, let Lovehoney guide you through the world of anal pleasure products so you can start your journey right.

How To Have Fun With Anal Play

Curious about anal play and anal sex? We took a trip to Spain and asked our favorite European adult film creators to show the ‘ins and outs’ of anal play for beginners. They cover anal toys including a variety of butt plugs, how to use anal toys and how to clean anal sex toys.

Get clean

With your butt's day job being what it is, it doesn't take a genius to work out why anal exploration takes a little extra prep to make sure you're clean. Being clean isn't just for hygiene or common courtesy for a partner – knowing that you're squeaky clean down below helps you (as the receiver) relax and enjoy the experience more, too.

“It's simple yet effective, it holds enough water to do the job right and to leave you feeling clean as well. The tapered nozzle fits easily and it's all easy to clean when finished with.” - Chunkyb93

For most people, being clean is as simple as making sure you’ve been to the toilet that day (so there’s no poop waiting to evacuate) and having a good wash in the bath or shower prior to using your toy or playing with your partner. If you’d like to take extra precautions, you can also use an anal douche to flush your anus about 45 minutes before play. Check out our guide to learn all the, ahem, ins and outs of anal douching.

For even more peace of mind and hygiene, you can also choose to use a condom on your anal toy, especially if both you and your partner want to use it. Regardless of who is using it or if it's been covered with a condom, make sure you give your toy a thorough clean according to its instructions before and after every use.

Get used to the feeling

For the majority of the time, we’re used to stuff coming out of our booty rather than going in so using anal toys can sometimes take a bit of adjustment. Practise touching, stroking and tapping your finger or toy around and on top of the outside your anus to see how you like it.

If you’re not into it, all good! Come back and try another day (or don’t). You should never feel uncomfortable or force yourself to do something in the bedroom that you’re not 100% sold on.

You can do test the waters like this with a partner but we recommend doing it on your own so you can fully relax and ensure you’re not feeling any pressure to go ahead with it.

Use lube

Unlike the vagina, the anus does NOT self-lubricate. This means that you MUST use lube when exploring any kind of anal penetration. There are no ifs, ands or but(t)s about it! We recommend using a water-based anal lube.


“I have used the lubricant during anal play and the feeling is wonderful. I've also used it with toys and on my clit when going solo. It's an all-round winner! It doesn't leave a sticky residue like some other lubes do and I've definitely found myself a favourite.” - MrsLafinlas

Not only is a water-based lube compatible with all sex toys and condoms, but an anal-specific formula is thicker, and longer lasting than regular lube for better comfort and pleasure.


Nothing will tighten your anus and potentially make things uncomfortable for you faster than feeling tense. This is why you’ll want to take some time to loosen up all the muscles in your body. Breathe deeply, touch your other erogenous zones to build arousal and get into a comfortable position.

Get warmed up

No, we don't mean star jumps. Warming up for anal play means starting with small, shallow penetration before moving onto something larger and deeper, if you should choose to do so.

“I bought this butt plug as a beginner due to its size being similar to that of a finger and because I had never used a plug before. First time using it was great! The plug was extremely easy to insert and felt nice and pleasurable. The plug stayed in place and was also very easy and comfortable to remove.” - Bella66

When you're ready for penetration, use a well-lubed finger to slowly and gently explore. This helps relax your anal muscles and get them ready for penetration, should you decide to move onto something larger. A lot of people like to use a small, tapered anal toy at this stage. A beginner's butt plug is perfect.


Toy around

Playing with an anal toy can be extremely pleasurable on its own and using one doesn't necessarily mean that anal sex will follow. Explore the full range of anal toys at your disposal, such as butt plugs, anal beads, anal probers, prostate massagers and anal vibrators, to really discover what you like.

“Bought this for my wife as we wanted to experiment. The toys are all nicely sized for beginners with a good quality feel and no smell. The douche makes it very easy to prepare for anal as well! Overall, a great beginners kit for the price and I would highly recommend it!” - Richard29

If you're struggling to insert a toy to its full depth (and you'd like to) a top tip is to add more lube, and bear down slightly (yes, as if you were on the toilet) and lightly press on the base of your toy. Just remember that the best toys for beginners have a tapered tip and slender girth, and ALL anal toys should feature a flared base to prevent over-insertion.

After play

If you've climaxed whilst wearing an anal toy (particularly a butt plug) the muscles in this area will have just contracted. This means you'll need to wait a moment or two to allow the muscles to relax again before removing your toy. You may find that adding a drop of lube helps your toy slide out more easily.

“Love these! They’re good for our bodies and toys after clean-up and good for the planet! What more could you ask for! They smell great and no after smell or residue left behind after wiping. Doesn’t burn or sting when used intimately!” - Unigirl2020

If you've prepared properly and have been to the toilet prior to play, then it's extremely unlikely that you'll encounter any mess. However, if you should find anything ‘new’ on your toy, don't fret it. Poop is an occupational hazard of anal play and that's just a fact. Give yourself and your toy a good clean and move on.

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