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How To Use a Fleshlight
Everything you need to know about using a Fleshlight for the first time.
Chances are you’ve heard of a Fleshlight. They’re one of the most popular male sex toys in the world because they’re not only discreet but also super pleasurable for anyone who loves the feeling of penetrative sex and has a penis!
If you’ve just bought your very first Fleshlight, you may be wondering how to use it. You could just slide right into the opening and start moving the toy up and down the shaft of your penis, but without the proper preparation you’d be robbing yourself of the most sensational climaxes.
So to make sure you know how to set up your Fleshlight for the most successful solo pleasure session, take a seat and let us show you how to fully enjoy your new bedside bud.
What is a Fleshlight?
So what are Fleshlights? For those who don’t already know, a Fleshlight is a sex toy designed to stimulate the sensitive nerve endings on the shaft of the penis.
On the outside, Fleshlights actually look a lot like torches (or flashlights, as the Americans call them), which is how they got their name. They generally have a cone-like shape, with the opening side being larger than the back side. They also have an interior made from a real-feel SuperSkin material that also features a series of ridges so that when you penetrate your Fleshlight it feels just like you’re penetrating a real vagina, or anus.
Fleshlights come in a range of sizes and colours, with most actually being made to resemble the vaginas and anuses of real people. You can find Fleshlights that resemble a female anus or a male anus, or Fleshlights that come in more vibrant colours like hot pink, if that’s more to your taste.
If a realistic Fleshlight is a bit too daunting for you to look at, you can also get ones that have a futuristic design. They’re still made to feel like you’re having penetrative sex with a real person, but instead of using real-feel SuperSkin material on the inside, these Fleshlights use a soft material that looks more like translucent jelly. Don’t worry though - just because these Fleshlights don’t look real, it doesn’t mean they can’t still give you the toe-curling climaxes any other kind of Fleshlight can give you!
How to use a Fleshlight
When you first open your Fleshlight, you might feel compelled to just slide your penis right into the opening and instantly start sliding it up and down your shaft - but hold your horses! There are a few things you need to do to prep your Flieshlight for penetration - otherwise you could be feeling more pain than pleasure.
1. Turn up the heat
One of the first things we recommend doing before you use your Fleshlight for the first time is to warm it up. Heating up your Fleshlight will give you a more realistic sensation upon penetration and help the soft material move more comfortably around your shaft.
To heat up your Fleshlight, remove the interior sleeve from its outer casing and submerge it in warm water. Once the sleeve has heated up to your desired temperature, dry off any excess water and pop it back into its case.
You can also use Fleshlight's USB-powered Warming Rod to heat up your Fleshlight if you don’t want to use water.
2. Lube up
As with any sex toy, you need to remember to use lubricant. Applying a liberal amount of lube to the inside of your Fleshlight, and your penis, will make sure that penetration is a breeze and that every erogenous zone is titillated when you slide your Fleshlight along your shaft.
It’s best to use a water-based lubricant with a Fleshlight as they won’t damage the internal material. Some Fleshlight kits come with their own lubricant, but if you don’t have one ready to go we’ve got a massive range of water-based lubricants for you to try with your new Fleshlight.
3. Penetrate and thrust
Now that your Fleshlight is warm and practically swimming in lubricant, it’s time to pull into Penetration Station! Simply insert your penis into the opening of your Fleshlight and slowly start to move it up and down your shaft.
The great part about a Fleshlight is that you’re in full control of its rhythm and speed. If you want to start things slowly and gradually increase your speed, then you can! If you’ve thought about alternating between deep thrusts and tip teasing, then you can do that too! Do whatever feels good to you and you’ll be able to fully absorb every sensual sensation the ridges inside your Fleshlight can provide.
If you want to spice up your solo pleasure session, why not bring another toy into the mix? Adding a small bullet vibrator to the entrance of your Fleshlight can enhance masturbation and add another element of toe-curling titillation that will have you climaxing in no time. We also recommend trying a hand-free adaptor so you can fully immerse yourself in penetrative pleasure in the shower, or anywhere else you feel like mounting your Fleshlight.
Fleshlights are incredibly versatile, so get creative with them and see what positions, techniques and other toys you can experiment with to really help get you off.
4. Bring in a partner
You don’t always have to use a Fleshlight on your own. Sometimes it’s just as exciting to have a partner take over control and use your Fleshlight to bring you to an explosive climax.
Using a Fleshlight when you and a partner are in a 69 position can be incredibly sexy and really help you to get in the mood for penetrative sex.
5. Keep it clean
Once your Fleshlight has helped you experience extreme pleasure, it’s time to clean up. It’s important to always clean your Fleshlight after a stimulation session to make sure it’s in tip top shape and lasts for years to come.
To properly clean your Fleshlight, remove the plush interior from its case and run hot water through the opening to remove any lubricant and any evidence of your climax. Make sure you don’t use soap to clean the interior as, tempting as it may be, as it can degrade your Fleshlight and allow harmful bacteria to latch onto its internal ridges.
If you’re really wanting to use some sort of cleaning substance to keep your Fleshlight fresh, we recommend using a sex toy cleaner. These cleaners are specifically designed to safely clean sex toys and make sure they’re always ready to go whenever you’re feeling hot and heavy again.
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