How to Use a Prostate Massager

by Lovehoney

on Jan 26, 2010

Prostate Massager Guide

If you’ve never enjoyed the thrill of prostate play, then you’re missing out!

Located between the penis and the bladder, this internal erogenous zone, sometimes called the P-spot, is an incredible epicentre of pleasure. Massaging it via the anus can lead to explosive full-body orgasms, hands-free 'super-Os' and even multiple climaxes.

Discovering your prostate gland isn’t that difficult, but pleasuring it properly takes a bit of time and skill. Luckily for you, there are plenty of tricks and toys on hand to help.

What are Prostate Massagers?

Desire Luxury Rechargeable Remote Control Prostate Massager

A prostate massager is a sex toy that’s specifically designed to stimulate the prostate gland, sometimes known as the P-spot.

Most people with a penis move on to prostate sex toys once they've discovered the area with fingers first, but go with whatever feels right to you.

Most prostate massagers, like the Desire Luxury Rechargeable Remote Control Prostate Massager have a tapered tip to ease insertion and a rounded head to ensure stimulation in the right spot. With a wireless remote you can seamlessly enjoy the sensations of vibration.

Some, like the Desire Massager, also feature an external stimulator to give extra attention to the perineum, the sensitive area between the anus and the scrotum.

Aneros Helix Prostate Massage

Although many people see larger prostate massagers as more advanced, the bigger ones, like the Dr Joel Kaplan 6.5 Inch Vibrating Prostate Massager, are actually ideal for beginners as they find your P-spot much more easily.

Massagers with smaller tips, like the Aneros Helix Prostate Massager, make it slightly harder to find the prostate gland, but can make the experience more intense.

Deciding on whether you want a prostate massager with vibrations or not is a personal choice. Just remember - you can turn vibrations off if you don’t like them but you can’t add them to a non-vibrating prostate massager.

Whichever type of prostate massager you decide to go for, using them is much the same.

How to Use a Prostate Massager

The prostate, or P-spot, is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and the penis. Due to its proximity to the anterior rectal wall, the prostate can be stimulated via the anus.

The P-spot swells when you're aroused, so foreplay or masturbation will make it easier to find and stimulate.

Position yourself comfortably, either on your back with your legs raised or bent over with your upper body leaning on a couch or bed. You can use a well-lubed finger first to find the prostate – it will feel quite different from the rest of the tissue inside the rectum, so it shouldn't be difficult to locate. As a guide, it should be about 2 inches inside.

Once you are ready, apply an anal lubricant like Lovehoney Discover Water-Based Lube to yourself and the toy – this should make insertion easy and pain free.

If this is your first time indulging in anal play then make sure to go slow and steady. Once you have inserted the toy (or finger), begin with a gentle rubbing motion, and make a mental note of which areas feel especially nice. You can then try applying more pressure to the area and seeing what effect it has on your body.

Many people find that firm pressure brings them closer (or all the way) to orgasm. You might also like to try an up-and-down motion, where the toy strokes over the prostate gland rapidly, for more intense stimulation.

With experience, some people find that they can achieve a hands-free orgasm by clenching and releasing their muscles and letting the toy move with the body. The most important thing to remember is to go slowly and experiment. If the first toy you try doesn't do it for you, don't give up.

Everyone is different and you'll be able to find the right fit for you. See the full range here.

Above: Still trying to find your P-spot? Watch our video guide above with Sammi Cole for more tips!

Need more help?

You can Contact Customer Care, who will be able to help you find the perfect prostate massager. You can email, telephone or live chat to an experienced advisor 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

The other great place to look for people's advice on sex toys is on the Lovehoney Forum, where our community is on hand 24/7 to give their opinions and tips.


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Originally published on Jan 26, 2010. Updated on Aug 6, 2020