We’re all familiar with those pesky thoughts that have a knack for interrupting our partnered play. Switching gears from everyday life to a sensual moment can be a bumpy ride - and not the ones we tend to like. It’s amazing how our brains suddenly remember those forgotten work tasks, grocery items or insecurities right when things heat up!

While sex can be an incredible experience, many people often find themselves lost in their thoughts and concerns instead of the action at hand. Whether it's worrying about performance, body image issues, or general anxiety, it's easy to get stuck in your head and miss out on the pleasure of the moment.

So, what do we do when our minds keep us up in the clouds rather than grounded in good sensations? In this blog, I’ll explore some tangible tips for getting out of your own head during sex and recommend a few products to help you feel more centred in the moment.

Tune into your senses

Touch, sound and smell are powerful tools when it comes to getting out of your head and back into your body. Focus on the physical sensations you're experiencing during sex – the touch of your partner's skin, the sound of their breathing, the smell of their hair. By focusing on your senses, you can prioritise the pleasure you’re experiencing and not the dishwasher that needs unpacking.

Experiment with different positions

Sometimes, getting out of your head during sex is simply a matter of switching things up. After all, repeating the same routine over and over again doesn’t exactly excite the mind. Try experimenting with different forms of foreplay or new positions and see what feels good for you. You may find that certain positions help you feel more present and connected to your partner.

If you need some inspiration, check out Lovehoney’s extensive list of positions - all with visuals to give you a helping hand.

Use mindfulness apps

There are a variety of mindfulness apps that can teach you strategies for blocking distracting thoughts and centring yourself back in reality. Popular options like Headspace, Calm and Insight Timer offer guided meditations and mindfulness exercises that aim to give you greater control over your thoughts, instead of letting them control you. Headspace in particular recently launched a ‘women’s collection’ which features a handful of resources that dive into mindful sex and explore exactly what turns you on (however the resources do sit behind a paywall).

With time and patience, you can understand the right strategies that work for you both inside and outside the bedroom.

Products that can help you prioritise pleasure

Getting out of your own head during sex can be challenging, but it's worth the effort to enjoy some blissful moments of magic. It just takes a bit of practice and permission to let yourself go and lean into the experience. However, if you need some extra tools to draw yourself out of the spiralling thoughts, I’ve got a few product recommendations for you.