How to Give an Erotic Massage

How to Give an Erotic Massage

by Lovehoney

on May 2, 2017

Foreplay doesn't just have to be a kiss and a cuddle within the confines of the bedroom. In fact, erotic massage is the perfect way to connect physically and emotionally. A massage can be a simple stroking of the hands or a good going-over of the whole body. Whatever you decide to do, you'll soon realise the benefits to your heath, your body, your relationship and your sex life.

Erotic Massage: Essential Equipment

Sure, you can give a massage using nothing except your hands - but adding the right tools for the job can make it much more intimate and sensual.

To get the full effect, you’ll want to set the right mood for your massage. Start by making the room you want to do the massage in warm - your partner will probably be naked or at least semi-naked so to stop shivers, turn up the heat.

You’ll also want to dim the lights or light some candles. Harsh lighting can be an uncomfortable distraction during massage so bring in a little bit of romance with some fairy lights or tea light candles.

Not sure where to start? We've picked some of our favourite massage must-haves below.

How to Give an Erotic Massage

No matter what part of the body you are massaging, there are some simple techniques that apply almost everywhere. Be careful not to press too hard or cause any pain when you’re giving the massage and take time to check in with your partner to find out which parts they enjoy most.

When massaging your lover, try to keep your bodies as close as possible and always maintain body contact. This will not only help you keep warm and stop your lover wondering, "Where did they go?" mid-massage, but it’ll also give you both a connection that really sparks your eroticism and romance.

Initial Touch

The first few touches you make should be long, lingering and purposeful. Psychologically speaking, firm contact will reassure your partner and make them feel safe, in the same way firm handshake instills confidence.

Use this time to apply the massage oil or lotion to their body and get their skin warmed up. Your hands should be flat but your fingers should be relaxed, allowing them to splay and follow the natural contours of your partner’s body.


Using your fingertips, trace the contours of your partner’s body. Run your fingers through their hair, gently graze their neck with the pads of your fingers or follow the smooth curves of their lips with your thumbs.

This soft touching will give great results and allow you to move your touch from one area of the body to another fluidly.

Kneading Thumbs

Pressing, kneading and rolling the thumbs against the body is a great way to workout tension in the muscles. Press your thumbs against any body part and smoothly move them away from you, using the full extension of your thumbs.

Moving each thumb, one after the other creates a continuous rolling sensation that will really get rid of knots and tight spots. This works especially well on the back, shoulders, feet and thighs.

 Getting Intimate

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If you hope that your massage will lead to something intimate, use a massage lotion that's safe as a personal lubricant and condom-compatible. Oil is not recommended for use as a lube, and it's not compatible with latex condoms.

A specially formulated massage lube like Durex Play Massage 2 in 1 Personal Lubricant is ideal, allowing you to go seamlessly from massage to sex.

Need more help?

You can Contact Customer Care, who will be able to help you find the right massage tools. You can email, telephone or live chat to an experienced advisor 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

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Originally published on May 2, 2017. Updated on Aug 6, 2020