How To Give Cunnilingus

In the bedroom, you’re going to want to have as many tricks under your belt as possible. You know what they say: variety is the spice of life. Sex is about so much more than just penetration, and learning how to put that mouth to good use is certain to transform your sex life for the better.

Going down on your partner will not only make them feel amazing, but it can also be great as foreplay (and is super sexy in general). Plus, if you’re a person that likes receiving head, it’s good manners to be open to giving it back, if that’s something your partner wants.

Giving your partner an oral orgasm before you have penetrative sex can help take the pressure off you as well, especially if you’re prone to coming first. They will already be satisfied, so you won’t have to worry as much about trying to restrain yourself when the big moment comes.

Figuring out how to give the best cunnilingus will give you a leg up on the competition and leave you feeling confident in your ability to satisfy a lover. Whether it’s your first time going downtown or you’re a kitty-lickin’ pro, we’ve got all the tips and tricks to help you slurp your way to the big O.

How to do cunnilingus

Before we get started, it’s worth mentioning that there’s no right way to eat someone out. It’s quite literally a different-strokes-for-different-folks type situation. We will offer you a host of different ideas to try, but it’s up to you to figure out which ones work and which ones don’t work for you. Everyone has different anatomies and different desires, so just because a certain method works with one partner, doesn’t mean it will work for the next.

The number one thing we suggest in any sexual scenario is to listen to your partner. Ideally, they will give you words of encouragement - something along the lines of “Yeah, right there” or “That feels so good”. But even if they aren’t the chatty type, you should still be able to read their body language if you’re paying attention and not too distracted by the task at hand.

If they are pulling your hair or holding you still, take that as a good sign. Reject the urge to go faster or harder - if they’re into it, it means that what you’re doing is just right. If they push you away, maybe give it a rest as they could be overly sensitive. Feel free to ask questions like “Do you like that, baby?” if you’re getting mixed signals from your partner. As always, communication is key.

There’s much fun to be had with the panties still on - touch them over top of the fabric, play with the elastic, and don’t take them off until your partner is dripping with anticipation.

If it helps, you can think of it as if you are making out with their genitals. You can work your way up to a higher pressure and speed, but all in good time. If you come in too hot, it could be painful for your partner or make them pull away.

Many people may also feel shy about having someone so up-close-and-personal with their intimate areas. A simple “You taste so good” or any other phrase that lets them know you’re enjoying yourself can work wonders in helping your partner relax and feel comfortable enough to have a good time. You can also look up at them, but don’t be offended if they don’t want to be able to get off.

If one of your friends has given you the age-old advice of spelling the alphabet out with your tongue, do not listen to them. Most people will need a steady, repetitive motion to get the job done. Lick up and down or go side to side. If you’re feeling up to it, you can mix it up by pressing your tongue inside the vagina as well.

Instead of just moving your tongue, you can try moving your whole head too. This will give you more power with the motion, and more options when it comes to patterns and strokes.

Eventually, you’re going to want to make acquaintance with the clit. The bundle of nerves rests just above the opening of the vagina, and it will likely be your key to oral success. Make sure you focus your attention on the little love bud - kissing, sucking, licking and the likes - and you’ll be able to gauge if it’s working by your partner’s reaction.

You can use your hand to spread their lips apart, giving you better access to add more pressure. While it might not seem intuitive, pressing down on their public bone will help enhance the sensation tenfold - it’s a pro-trick that will leave them wanting more.

You can also incorporate G-spot stimulation by inserting a finger or two while giving them oral. Pulsing them in the same rhythm as your tongue is a good technique. Turn the pleasure up to 10 by using a toy on your partner while you eat them out. Use a dildo or a G-spot vibrator while you focus on sucking the clit and trust us: you’ll never go back.

But unlike penis orgasms, the vagina doesn’t need a significant recovery period. In fact, multiple orgasms are possible without a break in between. You know what that means: it’s time to get back to work.

The best positions for giving head

When the mood strikes and you’re ready to get down to business, you’re going to need to sort out the logistics. Don’t over think it - you’ll be able to pull it off in any position that allows your face to reach their genitals. There are, however, a few stances that are go-to's for a reason.

Hot tip: Dor more control, grab underneath your partners buttocks and use your hands to push them towards your mouth.

Do I need to use protection for oral sex?

While there’s no chance of getting pregnant through oral sex, it can still transfer STIs such as herpes, HPV, chlamydia and a handful others. If either you or your partner have not been recently tested, it’s best practice to use a barrier protection such as a dental dam.

Essentially, it’s a thin piece of latex that goes between the mouth and the vulva to prevent fluids from getting through, which means it’ll prevent you from passing anything to your partner or vice versa. In a pinch, you can make a dental dam out of a condom by trimming off the ringed base and the tip and cutting it vertically until you’re left with a square. Place it over the genitals and you’re ready to get wet and wild.