The Single Woman’s Sexual Self Care Guide

by Lovehoney

on Mar 7, 2022

Make every day a self-love day with our top sexual self-care tips for all the single ladies. (As Queen B once said, “Now put your hands up!”)

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Modern love comes in all glorious shapes and sizes – the creation of Galentine's Day, an increasingly popular day to celebrate friendship, proves this.

At Lovehoney, we strongly believe that you don't need to be coupled up to appreciate everyday romance. Whether you decide to treat yourself to some brand spanking new sex toys or get stuck into an erotic novel, here are the best 5 ways to have a super-satisfying solo date night, whatever your relationship status.

1. Get All Dolled Up For Yourself

Wearing a matching sexy lingerie set can make us feel confident, powerful and sexy on a daily basis. It's an empowering way to express some self-love, and look red hot as you do it.

Whether you're heading out for drinks with your friends or making eyes at your train crush from across the carriage, knowing that you're looking all types of Sasha Fierce beneath your clothes is a surefire way to give you an extra dose of sexy confidence.

To turn up the heat for numero uno, go for something racy in red, or a timeless sexy black bodysuit. Remember – the more straps, detailing, lace and peek-a-boo holes, the better. By feelin yo’ self under your everyday getup, the confidence will be infectious.

2. Get Wet and Wild

Nothing feels more like a ‘me-time’ treat than a bubble bath… Apart from a bath featuring your favourite waterproof sex toys. Thankfully, there’s a saucy splash-proof selection of vibrators and toys ready to whet your appetite.

Whether you get your rocks off with a rabbit or enjoy the underwater buzz of a bullet, a waterproof toy is a perfect bath buddy, if we do say so ourselves. Pour yourself a glass of something delicious, delight your senses with lit candles and mood lighting, and pop off, sis.

3. Experiment and Explore

Being single is a wonderful time to play around and find out what you really like without the pressure of wanting to please a partner. Although you may already have an idea of the type of things that turn you on, there's no harm in experimenting on your own terms. After all, our turn-ons and bodies are continually shifting, and you may just find a new erogenous zone or way to have an orgasm that a partner has never given you!

If you've only ever climaxed with clitoral stimulation, try experimenting with a dildo that combines that with G-spot massage. If you've always been curious about anal play, spend your night getting acquainted with a vibrating butt plug. The options are enticingly endless…

The most important thing is not to put any pressure on yourself to orgasm - it’s all about sensual touch, worshipping your own body and having fun. To paraphrase Miley Cyrus, it's not about how fast you get there... it's the climb. Wise words.

4. Work It Out

Embrace exercise of a different kind with the assistance of lovely love eggs (your new favourite workout buddy). Designed to strengthen and tone your pelvic floor muscles, toner balls can also help to enhance orgasms and tighten pelvic muscles.

Simply think of it like you're training for a big race (of the enjoyable variety, no huffing and puffing involved here!). Although that race may be months away, it's never too early to start training. And when you start running that race, you'll be pleased that you put those hours in beforehand.

Make the most of your time by popping a love egg or jiggle ball in while you're doing your hanging at home and get ready to experience all kinds of new sensations… How's that for a home workout?

5. Catch Up On Some Reading

Take your bedtime reading up a hot notch by crawling into bed with an erotic romance novel in hand. If you’re one of the few people that hasn't devoured Fifty Shades of Grey in one sitting yet, now’s your chance.

The bestselling steamy novel is a great introduction to the erotic romance genre and will have you hot under the collar in no time. Alternatively, brush up on your bedroom skills by dipping into the Lovehoney Blog or Lovehoney Advice Guides to discover new tips, explore fantasies and become the head captain of your own orgasm ship.

Love Yourself

Whether you're a hopeless romantic or are all aboard the self-love train, take some time to cherish yourself and lose yourself in self-pleasure. After all, to quote Ru Paul, "If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?"

Browse the Lovehoney Sexy Lingerie and Sex Toy selection and treat yourself to a healthy dose of sensuality and self-love.


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Originally published on Mar 7, 2022. Updated on Mar 8, 2022