What is a Fleshlight and How Do You Use One?

by Lovehoney

on May 2, 2017

The Fleshlight is a portable, super discreet, sturdy masturbation device. The patented gel insert, made from Real Feel Super Skin, gives amazingly lifelike sensations.

From Fleshlight Girls and Fleshjack Boys moulded from your favourite porn stars' bits, to non-realistic 'stealth' masturbators, Fleshlights are premium sex toys for people with penises.

Designed to mimic the sensations of vaginal, anal and oral sex with intense textured canals, Fleshlights supercharge masturbation to unbelievable levels.

It's tempting to grab your Fleshlight and just go at it, but with a few moments of preparation you can have a much more pleasurable experience.

Follow our tips for using your Fleshlight and you'll be enjoying knee-trembling pleasure.

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    How to Use a Fleshlight

    How to Lubricate a Fleshlight

    1. Lubricate yourself, the orifice entry and internal canal. We recommend using a water-based lubricant like Lovehoney Enjoy Water-Based Lube.

    Never use oil or silicone-based lube with your Fleshlight, as it will damage the real-feel material.

    The ammount of lube you need will depend on the texture inside your Fleshlight – heavily textured canals like the Adriana Chechick Next Level Textured Fleshlight Girls Butt will need more than Fleshlights with less or no texture, like the Pink Lady.

    If you use too much lube, you may reduce sensation. It's best to add less than you think you need, then add more if you need it.

    Penetrate the Fleshlight and enjoy yourself!

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    Add suction by leaving the small end cap on during use. This creates a suction on the back stroke. Use your hand to restrict airflow at the bottom of the device to increase sensation.

    Use it in the shower with the Fleshlight Shower Mount for hands-free pleasure.

    Play with temperature by warming the velvety SuperSkin sleeve in water first for amazingly authentic sensations.

    1. Take the insert out of the plastic case and place it in a sink of hot tap water or just run it under the hot tap for a minute.

    2. Warm the insert to the desired temperature.

    3. Lightly shake the excess water off and put the insert back in the Fleshlight case.

    How to Use a Fleshlight

    Best Fleshlight Positions

    On your back
    Lie on your back and move the Fleshlight up and down the length of your penis. Try teasing the head of your penis with the opening before penetrating the full length of your shaft.

    On your front
    Position the Fleshlight under a pillow and use your hands and forearms to support the weight of your upper body as your thrust.

    With a shoe
    You can also stick the narrow end of the Fleshlight into a shoe, on a flat surface, then penetrate as you would with a partner in the missionary position.

    Wedge the Fleshlight between the mattress and base of your bed then penetrate on your knees in a hands-free style – or use the Shower Mount (see above).

    How to Use a Fleshlight

    Looking After Your Fleshlight

    Remove the insert from the casing and run warm water through the middle, concentrating on any textures. Do not use hot water or harsh soap as it can damage the SuperSkin material.

    Spray the insert with a specialist sex toy cleaner like Lovehoney Fresh Sex Toy Cleaner or Fleshlight Fleshwash Sex Toy Cleaner.

    Pat dry with a clean towel and leave to air dry thoroughly. The more textured your sleeve is the longer it will take to dry. Do not leave your toy in direct sunlight or on any sort of heat source.

    To restore the soft texture, wait until the insert is completely dry and dust the entire surface with Fleshlight Powder Renewer. Use your fingers to spread the powder evenly over the inner and outer surfaces, and knock off any excess.

    Store your Fleshlight in its case in a cool, dark, dry place, with any additional inserts in separate bags.

    Need more help?

    You can Contact Customer Care, who will be able to help you find the right Fleshlight. You can email, telephone or live chat to an experienced advisor.

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Originally published on May 2, 2017. Updated on Aug 6, 2020